Thursday night after work, in order to alleviate some of the mopiness I was feeling with regards to not being in Toronto, I decided to check out a discussion group that I’d seen online called BiRequest, a safe space for bisexual folks and bi-friendly people to talk about issues of concern to us as individuals and to our community. The topic for this particular evening’s discussion was presented as follows:

What sort of relationships are suited to bisexuals?
Must we be polyamorous? Can we give and receive joy
in monogamous relationships? Are we ever satisfied?
Can we be trusted?

What of long term committed relationships between bi
folk and non bisexuals? Do we have to “become”
straight or gay?

Is a long term relationship the goal, or is dating
more suited to our needs?

Are we doomed to a life of broken hearts, or do we
have special gifts to create the best relationships of
all?

Well, I found the tone of this set of questions very provocative, as did, I later learned, quite a few of the other folks in this group. As a matter of fact, this set of questions attracted more new people to the group than the regulars had seen in years. It is a subject that is very close to the hearts (and nerves) of a lot of us, and its a subject that I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about, as a (here come the labels) non-monogamously-minded bisexual person.
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